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00:00:00: So, on this episode I'm talking about emotional safety.

00:00:08: And what i mean by that?

00:00:12: To be able to give yourself the full acceptance of expressing your self and feeling the emotion... ...and allowing yourself do it because some of us have grown up not feeling safe and we had to... We had to shove it down or you know some of us, It became bigger.

00:00:46: Became bigger And bigger Like erupted like a volcano!

00:00:54: And can develop into Emotional dysregulation which is what I suffered from.

00:01:05: When the child is persecuted for having an emotional reaction to something that innately upsets them, they develop a nervous system.

00:01:22: That perceives threat everywhere and I have struggled with this most of my life And i know me working on myself every single day... ...I have to do these healing techniques every single Day but in one way I feel like when i went through as a kid growing up.

00:01:51: but what most of us have gone to because it was the generational thing.

00:01:57: some of us learned to hide better with masks and Some of Us can't mask.

00:02:06: It just comes out like fireballs, you know.

00:02:14: And I have been true narcissistic abuse cycle and you know, but I do believe that we need to validate.

00:02:32: Now it is our responsibility to validate our emotions when they come up And its time think of the solutions and ask their child within what was never asked before.

00:02:52: Every moment if something is triggered Obviously that's a trigger.

00:02:58: That has been triggered as A little boy, little girl Little child.

00:03:08: But now we get to give the child medicine The care and love they deserve.

00:03:19: With my own daughter She's eleven but I Ever since she was in the womb, even before I promised her that She would be In a world where she could fully express herself and Be seen and heard And held With with it within nurturing space to Fully Express how she feels That she can be safe To be vulnerable you know.

00:03:54: and if and If she's upset or she is angry There is there.

00:04:01: Is a reason and there is A response the response of loving response, you know I'm here tell me about it And we can think of solutions together.

00:04:16: i've always I know I struggled with my own Emotional landscape Because of course I did and I was tongue-tied till I was four II couldn't express myself properly and I Was persecuted for it.

00:04:31: Every time, up until my adulthood I was persecuted for having grief.

00:04:35: For having heart breaks... ...for failing an exam.. ..for making a mistake and dropping crumbs on the floor… …for being too slow or trying to get something!

00:05:01: But yeah….

00:05:03: the wonderful thing is I get to choose different.

00:05:06: Because, i don't want my daughter to ever feel responsible like...I dont'want her to EVER FEEL that there's something wrong with her for having a natural human response To SOMETHING THAT UPSETS HER SPIRIT!

00:05:30: I NEVER WANT HER TO FEEL THE WAY.

00:05:32: I want her to FEEL That she can OPEN UP that she can be the full expression as well, who she is and if she's excitable.

00:05:43: If I used to get punished for this aswell... ...if i was very giddy or because you know my feelings are very big.

00:05:52: they're very big!

00:05:55: Recently come into a lot of calmness lately.

00:05:59: Tense meditation and few healing techniques that ive been doing every day.

00:06:05: Sematic exercises.

00:06:06: They're fantastic and box-breeding.

00:06:12: but I want her to feel absolutely Her full self that she can be a full self.

00:06:24: And when it goes out in the world, does he can shine?

00:06:27: I want him to shine.

00:06:28: all you wanna put the biggest crown on her To know me.

00:06:33: That's my dream for her.

00:06:34: unless this is why i'm doing the work.

00:06:35: This is why This is why parents of today, this is why we have to do the work.

00:06:44: This is so many of us are on these healing journeys you know?

00:06:50: The future for our children deserves...to be healed.

00:06:59: Deserves to be better.

00:07:01: and I know out there We see that There's a lot of unrest but theres A LOT OF BEAUTY IN THE WORLD AS WELL You know and we can bring more of that.

00:07:15: Yeah, so It is important.

00:07:21: if she wants to sit in front for me and cry her heart out I would tell her to release that or allow the.

00:07:30: I was celebrated because She's not gonna swallow it down to where it will hurt her.

00:07:38: because if you do swallow down, I know that turns into illness whether mental spiritual or physical.

00:07:51: If a lot of people we want to please other and keep the peace but not keeping your own piece by shoving things you know, expressing them truthfully.

00:08:12: To be old to be vulnerable is the most strong strongest attribute.

00:08:20: it's the most strongest.

00:08:21: It's so resilient and even for men that can express they can cry They can open up.

00:08:31: That's a sign of strength that has not weakness Not at all I think my sensitivity that there was something inherently wrong with me.

00:08:43: Oh, he was trained to believe in relationships growing up and i know it was like a program That we sent down through our parents And her grandparents.

00:09:00: They only knew what they knew You Know but We woke Up from It.

00:09:10: Like, the mind-body connection is so strong.

00:09:20: It's a real thing because our emotional landscape... ...is connected to the pathways all over our body and we can pinpoint where in the body were holding that specific block an emotional block That what they are And when, you know... and especially children.

00:09:50: And teenagers You know?

00:09:52: Teenagers They believe they need to hide everything because that's what society tells them to do.

00:09:59: It is not a puberty thing it isn't just how it is.

00:10:04: Ah!

00:10:04: That s the part of teenage years.

00:10:08: its normal.

00:10:10: Its a program as well with the hugging thing, and oh she stopped at a certain age because you know that's how it is.

00:10:19: No they were taught that!

00:10:22: They were taught there And Covid My child was very young when Covid hit starting school told that hugging her friends was wrong.

00:10:34: She's afraid to hug.

00:10:35: now She's, for the last two years and I got told by many people oh that is just her age it was puberty.

00:10:48: No, since Covid she had always been like that you know and I do think our children have been deeply affected.

00:11:20: so we us now working on ourselves because children do reflect are inner-children.

00:11:34: So if they're acting up around you and having a certain emotional experience, kind of out-of-nowhere.

00:11:49: It is mirroring something inside ya as well that your inner child is experiencing the same thing.

00:12:00: And children are very clever They know that.

00:12:07: So I've noticed that as well.

00:12:12: Our children, they're like balancers!

00:12:15: They are here to balance you know?

00:12:18: And we are the ones responsible now... ...to release all of old programming and transform the old belief systems and to actually sit with our inner child, ask her inner child.

00:12:43: So this is triggering you.

00:12:45: what can I give to you?

00:12:47: Something that we didn't... That were too young To be able to give ourselves.

00:12:55: We're too young to have the kind of medicine And care for us.

00:13:00: And now we can do that.

00:13:06: When we heal our inner children, We free our children's future from experiencing those same emotional dysregulation or a host of illnesses being trapped in the mind.

00:13:24: You know?

00:13:34: These these things, you know anything that's put into us.

00:13:40: Anything does put it in to us.

00:13:42: You know and it's as epigenetics.

00:13:44: we can transform It.

00:13:47: I'm weak and We can heal the DNA?

00:13:52: We can upgrade our own DNA And then that Upgrades are children's DNA doesn't it?

00:14:01: and a heels their past generations as well.

00:14:07: It's beautiful and it's fascinating.

00:14:10: And I'm so happy to be doing this work, I know now some days are harder than others... ...and like oh no!

00:14:20: If i had a moment of emotion dysregulation.. ..I was triggered by something for example.

00:14:31: But I try not to shame myself at the time which is going back up.

00:14:35: I'm going to look at this now and they're gonna go, ah yes.

00:14:38: This mirrors something else that happened before you know?

00:14:43: And try choose different for the next time but feel it!

00:14:48: You know um on this journey when you're going through uh The healing journey or the ascension journey literally if you've got a Kundalini Awakened in ya' the blocks burning away, you know cleansing.

00:15:09: It's a purification.

00:15:13: basically.

00:15:15: so when your getting triggered by something at that moment in this site there is alot of us on our healing path It's triggering something that is already inside you, there has been laying dormant and thats coming up.

00:15:38: And then your allowing yourself to actually express the emotion That wasn't allowed be expressed when were a kid.

00:15:48: So now it comes in very big way.

00:15:54: But we are learning techniques To not let over comos um, affect the people around us and you know I had been through that.

00:16:08: You know it had affected some of my loved ones but uh yeah!

00:16:22: But i have-i am...I've been learning more and opening more and realizing That I Have The Ability to take care for Tiny kid inside me that didn't know any better.

00:16:42: She didn't she didn't have this skit, and he didn't Have the The nurture That you deserved.

00:16:50: You Know that children do deserve that.

00:16:53: every single child Every single child in This whole world Deserves Unconditional love.

00:17:05: hands down And they're saying what animals The same, the same with nature.

00:17:11: The same what I wear out of each other.

00:17:15: Same as all if it's supposed to be based on harmony.

00:17:24: That is why we are here To try and create that.

00:17:27: We need to recreate that.

00:17:35: You know?

00:17:40: that there's two sides.

00:17:43: We need to choose the side where we're not persecuting each other for these things, were not gossipin' about eachother or not punishing eachother...for having feelings!

00:18:00: We have to celebrate eachother and especially us women who go through the monstrous cycle and I would go through it every month, then we shared every single month.

00:18:17: And of course the gamut of emotions that comes up but it's... It's.. We're releasing and we are healing every single monthly and we re-burthing all the time!

00:18:37: And it needs to be celebrated especially in young kids and when they come of age for them not to feel embarrassed by it, you know?

00:18:47: To feel honored.

00:18:51: You know I try do have that talk with my daughter but she's having none of this because there is a little program running around.

00:19:01: Little program running round...you know where are getting from?

00:19:06: online or in schools?

00:19:09: But I would love to create a safe space, you know?

00:19:15: A community where every month women got together.

00:19:22: There was no competition there was not like putting anyone on at Ferris wheel and then the other... You know..there were none of that!

00:19:30: They're just all....women are leading themselves helping to lead eachother fixing each other's crowns, celebrating each other even in their most darkest of days when they're on the void.

00:19:49: When you know... The room space is devoid!

00:19:53: That what it is but creates worlds and then it plants seeds that blossoms into new creations and insights.

00:20:06: We need to be celebrated for that, and as well the men who hold space For us women.

00:20:15: And The souls all the souls and all the people.

00:20:21: Whatever you know whatever you identify with even Even our souls.

00:20:29: what we came here To do Celebrate it You Know?

00:20:39: That's What I have today And I hope you can all be a little bit more patient and to celebrate your, no matter how big it is.

00:20:55: To celebrate every emotion we have... ...and find out what your inner child needs in that moment.

00:21:03: Give It Yourself We give it ourselves.

00:21:09: That's the healing and more times, nineteen out of ten it's actually what we enjoy doing.

00:21:18: You know that you know that fire I was talking in the last episode.

00:21:25: its music art dance or really to maybe yeah if we all got together in a group and we screamed together and held hands Rather than going, you're one there.

00:21:44: She's a bit crazy blah-blah-blab... You know what I mean?

00:21:46: We've got to stop that!